Tips on Life in Small Bites

Key to a Fulfilling Life – Part One Do Not Take Offense Outline Introduction The Offender’s Perspective Possible Unhelpful Responses Our Alternative Choices Practical Steps Introduction All humans are flawed. Everyone makes mistakes. People will hurt or disappoint us. We are bound to hurt and disappoint others.  Hopefully, the hurt incurred is not intentional. Regardless of the motivation/intention for the hurt incurred, the recipient experiences its harm.  Hurt is inevitable; suffering is optional. The Offender’s Perspective Most offenders have moved on after doing their damage. They had a “moment” of bad mood, a flash of anger, out of control of their emotions, giving into their feelings and taking them out on others, making a poor choice, temper tantrum, venting of their feelings, giving into their sadistic emotions, identification with the aggressor, emotional dysregulation, wanting others to feel how bad they felt, etc.  Most of the time, the offender does not recall...